[pesfandiar]

I also have an infant daughter, and don't even imagine moving to SV. Other comments have talked enough about the finances, but the main factor for me would be the work-life balance.

From what I hear in online communities, SV sounds extremely anti-family. Companies that can hire new grads that will conveniently work overtime for pizza and beer will not really value a 9-5 family man like yourself. Add to that the stress and time-sink of long commutes, and that's all time that you could be spending with your young family.

[tannhauser23]

It depends on the company. Mine is very family friendly. Don't believe everything you read online (including me, haha) - remember that people who are unhappy with their situation is more likely to post stuff online than people who are content.

That said, commute is a killer.

[randycupertino]

I've been in interviews were afterwards the group consensus was to actively not hire the newly engaged woman because people were nervous she'd get pregnant and then take maternity leave. Blatantly illegal, but nobody wrote it down, just said it out loud. She was well qualified and smart, but didn't get an offer. "Culture fit."