| > No, it's fully earned. I am a parent. I have witnessed first hand the moralizing, judgement and mutually contradictory universal expectations that random people have about how childrearing should be done. I don't doubt you are an intelligent person, but it's not showing. I hope you consider it as a possible description and not an insult. Let's go by parts: > No, it's fully earned it is objectively unearned. To earn the complaint of "moralizing about every single aspect" I need first to moralize about every single aspect. I moralized about one aspect. > I have witnessed first hand the moralizing, judgement and mutually contradictory universal expectations that random people have about how childrearing should be done. From me? please justify. > Reframing the debate in terms so negative that anyone would appear insane to disagree with them is classic political correctness. Please justify how is it that hitting causing pain is not using hitting and pain to shape children. > Which raises the question, is your duty as a parent to prevent any and all psychological damage to your child? you changed the subject from causing pain as a value in parenting to preventing psychological damage. > If the goal is to minimize suffering, then is it better to indulge your child and raise an entitled spoiled individual that will never be satisfied for the rest of their life. What? you are so far from being able to think about this subject. > Or is it better to "use fear" (the fear of consequences, whatever they may be) to raise a child that has some notion of negative cause and effect? I'm done. You could tell yourself I'm quitting because I don't have an answer. I just realize this subject turns brains off for very good reasons. |