[burkaman]

It doesn't matter if they make these jokes to their coworkers. Here's a very contrived analogy: Imagine I'm 6 feet tall, standing in front of someone 4 feet tall, and I punch the air in front of me for some reason. No harm done, the guy's short so I don't hit him. Now imagine I'm standing in front of my new 6 feet tall coworker, and I do the same thing, but I hit him in the face because he's my height.

Should I have changed my behavior just for this guy? Isn't that pandering, shouldn't he have to adjust to my behavior if everyone else is ok with it?

No, I should have taken into account the obvious fact that my actions would hurt him, even though nobody else minds. Not caring about that makes me an asshole.

In the case of the blog post, it should be abundantly obvious that someone who posts an article about sexism in the work place will not think "we don't give a fuck" and "just get over yourself" is funny. Not caring about that makes them assholes, and the fact that they didn't respect her at all in this scenario means they probably don't respect her in general.

And while "Move over, I need room for my big dick" is dumb in any context, it is common sense that it might be received especially poorly by a woman you don't know in an overwhelmingly male-dominated environment, and not caring about that is grossly disrespectful.

Treating people equally is not the same as treating them as equals. And treating people equally is not something to aspire to; it's trivially easy to come up with scenarios where equal treatment produces unequal results.