[lhuser123]

That's a good question. I have been thinking a lot about it to try to give you an honest answer. Or maybe, give myself an answer.

As always, is complicated. Probably two major things happening. First, years of practice. Second, a new hobby/hope.

For years of practice, what I mean is, for example what I learned about myself while talking to a therapist. Also techniques from books, blogs, videos, etc. More interesting, and probably more important is what I have learn about how the mind works. That really helps.

The hobby/hope/purpose or whatever they want a call it, it's very helpful. I'll even say it's necessary. It has to be big, like the coolest thing ever. To make you wake up every morning thinking about it. Many of the activities recommended here could be a good option, but only if they would help you achieve that cool thing you like.