[gonehome]

> No - empathy just means feeling the same emotion as people around you, which is not always helpful. What you want is compassion.

That's a particularly narrow definition of empathy, most definitions include something like the following:

"the ability to understand and share the feelings of another." [1]

The capacity for this is what helps - it makes it easier to understand how the other person is feeling.

As opposed to compassion:

"sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others." [2]

Empathy is a more general understanding of emotional state - I don't think it's being incorrectly used.

[1] https://www.google.com/search?q=define+empathy&oq=define+em&...

[2] https://www.google.com/search?q=define+empathy&oq=define+emp...

[erikpukinskis]

It is being used incorrectly though. Because understanding the other's emotions is not the solution. Thinking you can and should understand the other's emotions at all times is a mistake.

The OP suggested merely leaving open the possibility that your assumptions are wrong. That's really the opposite of understanding, it's expecting that you're not always going to understand, and making space for the other person to explain themselves and make things right.