[feistypharit]

Someone will have to sacrifice somewhere: either you, your spouse, or your kids. I have two kids, and when our second was 6 months old, I quit working to take care of them. I'm a male. We also moved closer for family, to an area that's not great for my career.

I still do side projects and a bit of consulting (remotely), but most of my time is kid or house related. If I wasn't doing this, I'd be a director level manager at some software company probably.

I know a lot of folks where both spouses are working and "successful", but their kids are typically quite the opposite. Freeloaders, lazy, on drugs, still living at home with no plan to leave, etc. It's hard enough to find quality child care, but nothing can replace a present, caring parent.