[bostik]

> only time he has on his own is after 10pm, as he needs to put his kids into bed first. And often before he has done it, he is too exhausted

This is pretty much my experience too, and I have just one child. Which is more than enough.

I can't help but agree with many of the already voiced opinions, because yes, "it depends". However... in my case, I have gone as far as to state, on several occasions, that if you want to work in tech and retain your sanity there is only one sensible option:

Do. Not. Breed. -- I have come to believe that a good part of this comes from my staunch certainty that bringing a person without their consent to this world is morally corrupt. The planet is over sustainable capacity already. Why should we exacerbate the problem?

However, it's important to note something. Even with my personal opinion being what it is, I am still happy and supportive of anyone making their own decision and going against my conviction. It's their choice and they believe it right. Who am I to judge?

I am not going to claim that my opinion is correct or right. Nonetheless, it's mine.

[daxfohl]

I have kids and am happy about it, but I'll still add another argument in your favor because I think about it constantly: ageism in tech. You decide to have a family when you're in your 20s or 30s, getting promoted regularly, and everything seems honkey-dorey. Hit 40 and boom, you've got huge expenses in raising these kids but a very tenuous grip on your career, with best earning years perhaps behind you.