[pavlov]

If you have a strong career ambition and have also raised a big family (more than 1 kid, and spouse doesn't work), do you feel that family is a career obstacle or a booster?

You don't want to hear the experiences of those whose spouse does work?

[evervevdww221]

I do. I wrote this based on my personal situation and my current girl friend's (potential wife). She is capable and a very good person. But her field of study isn't as money many as an engineering field.

I believe she will contribute to the family as much as she could (even not financially ). But I can't ask more than that.

She also grew up in a richer family than mine. She seems to be used to a higher life quality. I feel some pressure about it. but I have never talked with her about it for the fear for disagreement, whereas I lean toward a Minimalism, less materialized life. "live tiny, die never.", but with a family, I guess I won't have the freedom to choose my way of life.

I explicitly said "spouse doesn't work", because I want to hear from extreme examples.

[randycupertino]

> She also grew up in a richer family than mine. She seems to be used to a higher life quality. I feel some pressure about it. but I have never talked with her about it for the fear for disagreement, whereas I lean toward a Minimalism, less materialized life.

Sounds like a recipe for resentment and disaster. You guys should hash this out and have a discussion before you move forward in your relationship. Differences in lifestyle and finances are the #1 reason for divorce.

Best of luck!

[bostik]

> Differences in lifestyle and finances are the #1 reason for divorce.

I have to disagree. Even at the risk of being snarky, I believe that marriage is the #1 reason for divorce.[0]

0: http://vintage.failed-dam.org/tomato.htm