[matuszeg]

No questions. Just wanted to say I enjoyed what you wrote, particularly how honest you were.

The part about how you had assumed expectations for the meeting that he had not been explicitly aware of was a breath fresh air as I read it. We as people often forget others may not be reading a situation the same as we are. To see it from the others perspective is important.

I did get angry reading about you using your "femininity" as an advantage during your recruiting days. And I would like to offer this analogy. A women using her sexuality as leverage over a man for a career advantage is akin to a man using his career as leverage over a women for sexual advantage.

I see them as nearly the same, because men generally hold the chips in the professional world and women hold it in the dating world. And using that as leverage against another is wrong on both sides.

But I kinda got the feeling you were starting to agree with that. Maybe you do maybe you do not. I appreciate the honesty either way.

[bethebutterfly]

Oh my whole point of the post was women use their feminity all the time and it actually creates the ecosystem everyone complains about. So it's about owning that part, which is not done often.

[qb45]

At the same time, don't be too harsh on yourself - like you aren't condemned to a lifetime of a helpless victim, men aren't exactly condemned to be brainless animals following their dick everywhere. At least sometimes; I take your word that you have seen plenty of solid evidence to the contrary ;)

[matuszeg]

For some reason that didnt wholely click with me when i read it. Maybe my own biases didn't want to see it. Whatever the reason, hearing you say that definitely clarified things.

Now im stratching my head wondering how it wasnt more clear to me.

I think I have become too accustomed to a tl;dr at the end to tell me how to feel, that Ive gotten worse at reading comprehension.

[acchow]

The article ends with a tldr to help with that:

"In wrapping up, I am deeply sorry to any contribution my actions have had on women in this ecosystem by giving permission to the kind of behavior we are trying to change."

[matuszeg]

It appears as tho my attention span was shorter than the article. My apologies.