[kaosjester]

My wife got angry quite a few times in graduate school because the university's Women in Computing group forcibly signed her up to their mailing list at the start of every academic year. She unsubscribed every year and, without fail, they silently added her back. Apparently they thought a woman in computing couldn't manage without being part of this group!

It's one thing to give people the space and support they ask for. It's quite another to shove space and support, unsolicited, upon them.