[wolco]

I have and been successful but maybe things have changed in the last 10 years.

You never meet someone right away, first you instant message on the platform. At some point you move into a chat program offsite and in a month you started talking on the phone. 6 months later you meet. Over that half year you develop a friendship when you meet you have tons to talk about. The buildup adds excitement and unless you look nothing like your picture your looks are already accepted and seeing you in person increases that attraction.

If you try to rush the process you better have outstanding physical qualities or great style or money or luck because every relationship needs a base. You are better off going to a local minecraft meetup. Everyone attending will feel they have someone in common and you can build off of that.

Start by building a low risk relationship with daily contact points. That will create the base for a successful friendship which is what you need for a successful relationship.

[monksy]

Things have changed drastically since you've been on there. If you flounder for more than 2 days you're likely just to get dropped or they'll move on.

Usually I ask the woman out for drinks after 2-4 round trips on messages.