Not at all. The most annoying thing on OKCupid is seeing a repeat visitor that will not strike up a conversation with me until I initiate it. I actually find take-charge girls really attractive. What I meant is that I didn't find the girls who initiated contact with me so far, to be attractive. A few had very poor self esteem that I could tell just from the message they gave me. Many would say they have mutual hobbies/interests but when I probed further I realized they were lying and were the kinds of people that actually don't do much, which is also a turn off. Somewhere along the line I learned to overcome my introvert tendencies for periods of time. And I want to enjoy life with somebody who has similar interests. I go to the gym, play sports, have an active social life. I don't necessarily want somebody who is the same as me, but I also don't want somebody who's going to loaf around on the couch at home for an entire weekend. So far, girls like that seem to be initiating contact :-/