| First cause diagnosed:
Did you drink coffee, or any others coffee drink? My experience is that, it destroy my mood and brings anxiety in the evening right after work. My wife recognizes me whether I drunk coffee at work or not. Try Matcha green tee instead of coffee. Point for you:
Good self reflection, point for you that you recognized this wrong pattern, and want to change it. Second cause diagnosed:
Please be aware that we as a human behavie strong context based. In example after learning language being drunk you will not remember it when you are not drunk. When you drink again you will able to speak new language again. The same is with your work place and home. For you now this is one context, you brings your job actor play and still playing it at home, even though you change your context (from work place to home). To fix an issue build up (learn) your new role that you will play at home in example a lovely husband, or father. Solution:
When you are mindful enough before standing your home door, tell yourself that you from now on you are playing new role (great husband on example) and when you welcome your wife play a role. After few days, the new paths at your brain will be created. and your subconcious mind will play that role without your knowledge. Good luck |