| Truth is powerful. It is stronger than willpower. Anger is not a primary emotion. It is a secondary emotion. It cannot exist without thought. This is fact. Anger is a response to unmet expectations. You expect and feel you deserve some "state of the universe" whether it is success, recognition, remuneration, respect, or basic human treatment. You then do not receive that thing you expected and believed you deserved, had a right to, earned, or very much wanted. That mismatch is where anger comes from. The first way to stop anger, is to stop it from growing. If you know where it comes from, then you can change your circumstances or your expectations. Your body is presumed to have overcome an invasive bacteria when it can stop the invader from net growth. The same thing works for anger. Anger cannot remain unless you replenish it. If you do not feed it, it does not grow. Do not review the thing that "made you angry" over and over. There is an brain hijack where you get a short-term emotional high, and find it harder and harder to resist replenishing the anger. You can't tell yourself "don't think of pink elephant". Instead you can say think very hard of "a". Read "how to live on 24 hours a day" for a good guide on focus mind on single topic. If you don't like living in a world that makes you angry, try to make it a world that does not make others angry. If even a small majority has this as their process, then you get to live in a world where others help you to be less angry, less unfulfilled, less disappointed. You might find that fulfilling. After you have the mental and emotional roots resolved, then you can look elsewhere. Also, stay away from prescribed hormones. They hack the wetware. They make your biology fight your mind, instead of being its servant. Best of luck. -EngrStudent |
No, it isn't. That's just a particular framing of one kind of cycle that can happen. While it might not be typical, it is absolutely possible for anger to occur first, with the thoughts that "prompted" the anger actually occurring as a rationalization afterward. Human brains are amazingly adept at quietly generating plausible bullshit to fill in gaps that would otherwise cause dissonance.