[ninjaofawesome]

Living in a tiny apartment with my partner in New York, I love it. The way we see it, we have less stuff to own, clean, (if it didn't come included) heat, etc- and it works out just fine. I personally think that having more stuff and space doesn't make me happier, having better life experiences (good friends, travel, walkable neighborhoods) does. Also, I also value community involvement very much, which makes anywhere I live way more interesting and engaging.

However, I can relate to the wildly opposing viewpoint perspective between you and your SO, so perhaps a mediator may be in order- an impartial friend, a therapist, whomever you trust and isn't biased. Neither side needs convincing, but perhaps both sides may need a happy medium. Perhaps a new house may be in order regardless, or maybe just reorganization or expansion on your current place. But the way you describe it now, it sounds like nobody will end up really happy with the outcome.