[thornad]

We are very attracted when we project on the other that which we repress or feel missing in ourselves, a part of our own un-developed, unaccepted or unknown true nature. Therefore the need to merge.

Best thing in this case is to see what that is in ourselves. Cherish the relationship, while knowing the other is not neccessarily what we project on them, but a catalyst for us to know ourselves better.

Same thing goes for intense hate by the way. It's all towards unowned features of ourselves, but we project it on the other when they have the slightest resemblence to it.

Like the old bard said: "There's so many different worlds / So many different suns / And we have just one world / But we live in different ones"