[fenomas]

I think the answer here is analogous between spoken and programming languages. When I was learning Japanese the thing that made me grok the grammar was when I stopped "learning" and started imitating - that is, instead of trying to know all the rules needed to translate what I wanted to say from English, when I concentrated on reading lots of sentences in the target language, and saying things in Japanese using the patterns I saw there.

So for programming the same gimmick would amount to, rather than just building code out of the constructs you're most comfortable with, also read code written by experts and try to imitate the patterns you find there.