[toasterlovin]

It's really hard. Our second came while the first was still under 2 years old. Like you, we live far from family. We were fortunate enough to be in a multi-bedroom house, though. Still, our marriage almost fell apart.

Maybe just space them out? We had 2.5 years between the 2nd and 3rd and those extra 8 months made a world of difference. Not sure how old yours is now, but the difficulty of raising kids is an exponential backoff kind of a thing. Our oldest is 4.5 and, honestly, hardly requires any work. We basically just make her meals, but we could probably even teach her how to do that...