I think I'm okay if Basecamp doesn't want me. Really, it's a product, and if it doesn't fit my needs, I'll move on. But I'm sure I'm not the only one. But really, it's up to 37Signals to listen to the feedback or keep the product as is. Keeping it as is will keep their market share low, and ultimately make them less money. But I might be missing the point.
Of course you're not the only one. There are literally tens of thousands of professionals like you that are not a good match for Basecamp. It's perfectly normal. Basecamp only works for a tiny fraction of what I do.
One of the reasons why 37signals has managed to be so successful with so little code and so few team members is that they are extremely disciplined about what customers they cater to. Catering to people like you and me might kill them.
Like 'nexneo said upthread, you want Pivotal Tracker.