[jpetso]

You're going to get practice where you search out for it, when you're open to and ready for interacting with other people.

I can go to baseball practice, work on my game, and go home when it's over. Or I can ask if someone wants to stay and go for drinks after. Everyone's got the choice of what they want to do. If I love the game but not the people then I'll maybe hang out with a different group instead, or with my partner.

The point behind eliminating these side-effect interactions is that now you can decide when and with whom to interact, rather than being forced into it when you just wanted to get something else done.