[godot]

Having gotten married recently, things have already changed quite a bit, before even having kids. I have a similar job and commute as you do.

I also recently had the opportunity to change jobs and made it a point to join a place that doesn't believe in working long hours and staying late. (I used to work in an infamous place for long hours, then I left that to cofound my own startup which was again long hours even if more flexible.) My team here is totally fine with my 9:30-6:00 schedule with working from home 1 day of the week. This is currently how I balance it. I predict having kids will throw a wrench at this scheduling again and I'll have to re-adjust. As for side projects, it's pretty much fitting it in spare minutes on the train commute, when the wife showers, etc.

[maccard]

Sorry if this is over personal, but how does getting married change things? Were there more changes than marriage at the same time? I'm not married, but have been living with my partner for 3 years, together for 8 and am about to buy a house with them, so I'm wondering what I've got ahead of me!

[godot]

I think it's a personal commitment thing. For example, after being married, I'd like to commit to having dinner with her all (or almost all) days of the week, whereas before, I was pretty ok with staying later at work and grab a bite with coworkers; that sort of thing. I absolutely make it a point to avoid staying late at work unless absolutely necessary.

[thatwebdude]

If you're already living together; it doesn't change much of anything.

Except if it doesn't work out she gets a lot of your shit.

Marriage was a walk in the park; but kids was where it started to get difficult.