[nosequel]

Same boat. Here's me:

  1. My side project is my life.  I don't use the computer at all outside of work. I play with the kids, do stuff around the house, spend time with my wife. 
  2. I moved to being remote full time after killing myself commuting in SoCal.  My enjoyment of life has increased tremendously. 
  3. Like others have said, I don't waste any time.  I read Twitter/HN when I'm taking a 15 break in the morning and in the afternoon, but otherwise I work when at work. 
  4. I pick up new technologies while at work.  Part of why we are paid so much is we have to stay on top of what is the latest and greatest best practices.  This is like Doctors reading medical journals for their particular area of practice. 

Overall, you don't get to do your kids over again. If you miss something it is gone. There is no undo/redo cycle. Everything else for me is secondary.