[magicalist]

>> learn how to have a conversation

> The skills of a con artist are not related to the ability to build good systems.

lol.

Communication is about moving information through someone's senses and into a model constructed in their head. If you can't effectively communicate about yourself, the interviewer is going to make more inferences about you and may focus on areas that aren't your strengths while not even knowing to ask about strengths you think are very relevant.

It would be great if they could just sense your innate value through your aura, but it's not going to work. Being able to talk about yourself may feel uncomfortable or like self-aggrandizement, but that's actually a great reason to practice it. The interviewer wants to learn about you but also has a bunch of other explicit and implicit goals (get through the interview questions, to not be incredibly bored, etc), so there's no reason not to do a good job at honestly telling them about yourself.

[dvtv75]

Drawing a conclusion from this, if a person has a disability that leads them to being unable to interact until they understand the nature (rules) of the person or group around them, then they're more-or-less screwed in an interview situation.

That does explain a few things. I am REALLY good at my job, and after working a job for a couple of years I become very good because of my disability, yet the same disability means I don't know how to interact with people so I interview poorly.

I don't know how to talk to people I haven't met and just doing it for practise isn't the way to learn. I really can't spare the 10 or 15 years it would take.

Ultimately, when someone asks something that's unexpected, makes a claim that's false or incorrect, I just freeze up and can't actually respond. In daily conversation with people I know it's not a problem, but with strangers I have to stand back and wait until I have a grasp their sense of humor, how much they think of themselves, and so forth, before I can speak.