[oceanghost]

I volunteered a lot when I was young. It honestly taught me that need is infinite and I am a finite being, and just because someone is blind, disabled, etc DOESNT mean they won't take advantage of you.

When I volunteered for the blind, they'd always ask if I could come around several times a week, "it would make such a huge difference"

When I volunteered for the disabled, the disabled folks would literally hand me a list of tasks to do by the end of the day, and then micromanage the repairs I was doing.

When I volunteered for schools writing software (25 years ago) it was "make this 8086 with 512k of ram do magic!"

When I help people now, it's on my own terms, and the rule always has to be the the help provided is effective. You need mentoring"? Great. You're blind but you don't wanna live with your family so you think I should come over several nights a week after work to help with things? That's your families job, not mine. You're broke and need money buy your baby diapers, but your babies father has a nicer laptop and newer phone than I do? Stuff it.

As f*ed up as it sounds, most of the people I dealt with felt ENTITLED to my time.