[learc83]

It has nothing to do with them being beneath me.

Their are people making a nice living in every industry. The overwhelming majority of service workers do not.

There's a possibility that my middle-aged waitress is independently wealthy and just doing this for fun, that doesn't stop me from leaving a $100 at Christmas time.

It's not because I think I'm better than her, it's because in all likelihood, I've been just a bit luckier than her financialy.

[maccard]

> It's not because I think I'm better than her, it's because in all likelihood, I've been just a bit luckier than her financialy.

This is exactly what people here are talking about. The $100 tip shouldn't have anything to do with you being luckier financially, it should be a gesture of appreciation. A $100 tip isn't a gesture of appreciation normally, it's a gesture of "I am more fortunate than you, but I take pity on you so here you are."

[ido]

Solidarity with people less fortunate than you in not patronizing...social solidarity is a good thing.

[Dylan16807]

Sharing money because you have more of it is not judgemental or saying someone is beneath you. Why would you think that?

[iamacynic]

so not only are you passing judgment on an act of goodwill, you are manufacturing the fundamental motivation and putting it into someone else's head as well.

that's called projection. you surely would have come across that in all your pop psych and pop philosophy reading that you are obviously doing lately, right?