[mrexroad]

i don't mean this as a snarky reply, but i'll assume you don't have kids?

3, 6, or even 12 months can easily slip by between seeing some of my best friends who live in the same region. while i'm an introvert, i deeply value the time I spend with my friends. i put a good amount of energy into balancing work and family, with whatever is leftover usually being "me time" (reading, learning, building). I try and weave "friend time" into one of the former, but it usually takes more conscious effort than i can spare.

[kjbflsudfb]

I don't think that is snarky and you are correct. I'm simply trying to understand from others' points-of-view, though apparently simply asking is controversial...

I personally would feel like it cheapens the interaction if it was initiated solely on the fact that my friend set a reminder. I'm sure not everyone thinks that way, but why not ask?

[exclusiv]

I agree that it cheapens. If everyone starts using this app the way they currently use Facebook and their concept of lots of light friendships, a lot of people will have to make decisions about meeting at any given time because someone wants to check a box in their app so the smiley face doesn't go to a frown based on some arbitrary date that one party set when they created the reminder.