| To confirm your point: I've met many people who were stuck in a cycle of being troubled (often mental health issues, but physical too), and as a result being unemployed or barely-employed, and a result of that ending up even more troubled (again both mentally and physically; inaction is often unhealthy). Then they found the church I was a member of (at times I was the one who brought them). The first thing that often noticeably improved their general well-being was being seen as a person. People would come talk to this newcomer and involve them in some of the weekly activities. Another aspect of church that improved their life was regaining a sense of rhythm that they had lost: a weekly Sunday service + activities after, a weekly 'small-group' meeting at someone's house (and a big source of new friendships), the usual religious holidays, etc. But the thing that seemed to most improve their situation was becoming active as volunteers. This would speed up the making-friends process, give them a sense of purpose, take them 'out of themselves' (and their troubles) by focusing on others, and their new responsibilities provided an increase in self-worth (and sometimes even an income, if they were among the 'paid volunteers'). I've seen people that I couldn't imagine 'getting better' regain a sense of normalcy, confidence and even happiness in astonishingly short periods of time. Now obviously there's also a lot I saw in churches that I didn't like. But I've not found an alternative, at least not as visible as churches, that seems as effective, to the point where I'm almost inclined to encourage 'troubled people' to maybe give church a shot. |