[Redditshill]

I think my experience and satisfaction with Facebook has steadily decreased in a linear relationship with how many friends I have on my friends list. My guess is because:

1) the more friends I add, the more likely I am to add that guy on Facebook. The guy who always posts very annoying political posts, or the guy who posts very smug+condescending posts.

2) I find myself comparing with my friends, especially when they post pics of them on vacation or news of some promotion.

3) I spend too much time worrying about how to curate posts and post stuff that a. impresses people and b. doesn't offend anyone.

I probably just care too much what others think, but that's my 2c.

[5thaccount]

I think it is simpler than that - we like most people because we really don't know them that well, and the inverse si true as well.

We all have quirks that other people might find distasteful. As an easy jump off point, the pr0n habits of people vary wildly, and I'd wager if everyone knew what someone was into... The more you know about many people, the more chance there is that a part you uniquely find distasteful will emerge.

On top of that, the modern world in general, and SM specifically, has melded the public world, the private world and, most annoying of all, the inner world into a single, undifferentiated miasma. All these posts I see of people who can't work with Trump voters, or the religious right, or gay people or whatever shows how this melding causes real problems, even if it alleviates others.

We now know too much about people, and that isn't a universal positive.