[brudgers]

If the company culture doesn't suit you, that's o.k. To me, the bigger cultural disconnect is over going to lunch because it relates to social norms. The second take home is more or less a confirmation of your disconnect and that's why it is framed in terms of ethics and professionalism.

People struggle with social norms when it comes to remote work. It takes extra effort to treat remote workers well and so it is not uncommon for people to take a pass on it.

Good luck.