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Try increasing your attention on what's important to you, instead of decreasing your attention on what isn't. You can be asked for your attention, explicitly or implicitly, any time, for the dumbest stuff. Most of us have never learned to ignore it. And ignoring it is the only way to survive being constantly asked, because saying "no, stop bothering me" is pretty much just another way of saying "yes, you may take my attention right now." It might help you to stop having a phone. I did this for a few years, and it was modestly helpful, and surprisingly easy to do. But in the end, there were some things I did need to pay attention to, and some I didn't, including on the phone. My partner, my kids, my family- they all really did need my attention. Hacker News? Not so much. Figure out what's important, pay attention to that. Might be that the feeling your having is precipitated more by the lack of connection that is really meeting your needs. |