[flat6turbo]

uh, yes, the system is against me. why do you think they call it a legal defense?

have you ever been in litigation, or received the threat of litigation? it's 100% crystal-fucking-clear from the outset that, yes, the entire system is against you. every single thing that happens in the system drives this point home further. not only that, it is costing you obscene amounts of money at every step. at any point along the way, if you can't pay, you lose. too bad, so sad, pay up sucker.

people commenting on HN are not children, they are fully formed adults with careers, businesses, and life experience, and the judgement and opinions that go along with that. i know for a fact going into a divorce will be a huge battle, uphill, traumatic, extremely expensive, and probably psychologically damaging, so i'm going to reduce that possibility to ZERO through whatever means necessary.

going to court over business matters is bad enough. it'll be a cold day in hell before i go to court over flesh and blood.

some people avoid starting a business because they are afraid of going to court, or the costs, the hours, or risk of bankruptcy; i can't say i blame them at all because it's all true. and i'm certaintly not going to make up some feel-good woowoo malarky about them not believing the world is against you, because it very much is, and if you don't believe that deep down in your soul, you aren't going to survive long, and most people don't. i might not even survive it in the long run.

[parasubvert]

Yes, I've been involved with litigation, divorce, and custody battles. Yes they're terrible. But I'd posit that is because people are terrible. Courts and the justice system have been indispensable in defending the rights of my family - without them, it would be might makes right / whoever fights dirtiest wins. Or like Duels in the 18th century. This can happen, but does not have to happen. The justices in our cases saw through the bullshit every time , with few exceptions. I could not imagine restricting my life choices over fear of court. I can't say it has been positive experience, more of an affirming experience that the system can sometimes work, if you are willing to study it and work with it. I've lived a fairly long life not thinking the world is against me: I help others, and have been helped and loved by others. The choice is yours, on how you act and react to events. In the long run, we are all dead, might as well take some risks while we are here.