[armandososa]

How do you know (asking seriously, since I work alone 99% of the time) when somebody is sexist (or any other ist) or if he/she is just a generally unpleasant person?

Also, I got to say that if I'm in the same room with a woman who has a very visible cleavage I will look into the ceiling to avoid even the vague notion that I'm looking into their breasts.

[stagbeetle]

> How do you know (asking seriously, since I work alone 99% of the time) when somebody is sexist (or any other ist) or if he/she is just a generally unpleasant person?

Neither is mutually exclusive or objective. Someone can be sexist and be a pleasant person and someone can be an unpleasant person, but not sexist.

Similarly, someone can be unpleasant and racist to one person, but be pleasant and not racist to another.

There's not solid way to determine these things. If you're not in a position where you're being scrupulously watched over for signs of being an ist, then just try to be a good person instead of being not a sexist, or not a racist.

> Also, I got to say that if I'm in the same room with a woman who has a very visible cleavage I will look into the ceiling to avoid even the vague notion that I'm looking into their breasts.

That sounds more like social anxiety/ conditioning.

[Neliquat]

I find looking in the eyes to work better. Cmon man, this is not high school.

[neutronicus]

Sometimes, it's not too important to use the right synonym for "asshole". If, for whatever reason, you think that an equal-opportunity asshole is imprecisely labeled a sexist, well ... is that worth arguing over?