[Mz]

As someone who has long explored such subjects, this type of discussion is the worst place to try to have that kind of discussion, it is usually unsalvageable if you start by defending the thing others are attacking, and you should start with reading up on things like broken windows theory. In a nutshell: Abuse begins with disrespect and escalates to worse things. If you insist on real respect for all members of the group, abuse becomes far less common.

This is the reason I criticized your comment. Women get shunned, silenced, disrespected, etc in ways that are career killers, that happen solely because they are female and which most men would never put up with. When men are called on this uneven pattern of behavior -- especially by a woman -- the person calling them on it gets attacked, often viciously so, for disrespecting the man.

Real respect is a two way street. When one group or person is supposed to get respect and another is supposed to give it, it isn't respect at all. It is kowtowing.