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If you're really Republican, I'd suggest you stop framing debates about social policy as "for" and "against" LGBT. Thinking that heterosexual couples have an acute and unique problem with maintaining two-parent households, for instance, isn't anti anything.

I'm not aware of any serious Republican that wants bakers to be able to ban gay customers, either. Most of these issues are drummed up to form straw men and ad hominem arguments and avoid listening to legitimate concerns. We seem to agree on that.

That is, "for" and "against" is already framing the problem in terms of identity and division and I don't think that's productive, so I'd like to find ways to rephrase the problem.

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>Thinking that heterosexual couples have an acute and unique problem with maintaining two-parent households, for instance, isn't anti anything.

Well, it is anti something if it's code for being against gay marriage.

[humanrebar]

I can realize that:

* half of all pregnancies are accidental

* pregnancies only happen by accident with heterosexual couples

* unprepared parents is a social and economic issue

...without being anti anyone.

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Still speaking in code. Do you think gay marriage should be legal or not? If not, then at the very least you are anti-me, as I'm in a gay marriage. (And as far as I can tell my marriage hasn't led to any increase in unplanned pregnancies, if that's what's worrying you.)

[humanrebar]

The fact that you are both defensive and not interested in a new viewpoint makes me decline to give you a response to that question. I've already said I'm not anti-anybody. Let's not be so eager to outgroup our allies.

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A "new" viewpoint? You think I haven't encountered people who are opposed to gay marriage before?

If you oppose gay marriage, then you are anti-me, and anti everyone else who's in a gay marriage. You can't have your cake and eat it. Your views have real consequences for other people.

Also, don't patronize me by claiming to be my "ally". If you think my marriage is wrong then you are no ally of mine.

But hey, thanks for hinting that gay marriage is wrong without having the courage to actually say it. As you refuse to offer any explanation for your views, I'm going to assume that, as usual, there isn't one. Maybe you should hold off commenting on the issue until you have thought it through a bit more.