[EdHominem]

Why are you going to tell your hypothetical daughter that it's fine for her to have gender-segregated events and tell your son that it's a bad thing for him to do so? (Because presumably you don't support men (or whites, etc) only clubs...)

And how do you do it without saying to your daughter that it's because she's weaker than your son and needs help? How do you explain to your son that he's so privileged that he needs handicaps to avoid hurting others? (Especially if he's not actually some alpha-male stereotype who embodies that.)

I see so much potential for accidentally hurting people with this path that I'd rather jump through a bunch of hurdles to make all events inclusive rather than reverse the original discrimination.

[kohanz]

First, I assure you my daughter is very real and ceased to be a hypothetical about a year ago ;)

As I said earlier, I don't think gender-segregated events should exist in a balanced world, but I don't have a problem with them when there is a great imbalance and they have the potential to tilt that balance back towards equality (by existing temporarily). The whole idea of them is to create an environment welcoming to girls and get them interested in coding. I don't particularly care whether they do this by promoting only to one gender or explicitly allowing only one gender; that's logistics. I care that if we can provide more girls and women with an accessible pathway into software, that's a good thing, because once CS classes are and industry are more gender-balanced, we won't need these types of camps.

Calling it "weakness" to gravitate towards something that other members of your gender are doing is misplaced, in my opinion. My computer engineering classes were roughly 95% male and I'm not so naive to think that those were exactly welcoming enviornments for women.

To deny these pathways is to claim that the status quo is fine and that this inequality is either meant to be or will somehow solve itself. I don't believe either of those things.

I don't really understand what "handicaps" the existence of an all-girl coding camp represents to men or boys. There are a plethora of options for us/them. Who is getting really, genuinely hurt by this, in your opinion?

[EdHominem]

> I assure you my daughter is very real and ceased to be a hypothetical about a year ago

Heh. "Hypothetical child or children of unspecified gender".

> Calling it "weakness" to gravitate towards something that other members of your gender are doing is misplaced

There's a difference between doing something and discovering that most of the people doing it are your gender, and doing something that a higher-power (the event organizers) made gender-segregated.

And I don't mean there's a weakness in the person choosing the activity, I mean there's an apparent one you the parent are compensating for. Like if the event in question was basketball camps and you put your child in "Basketball for Short & Slow People". All the female-only events have a real taint of keeping out the strong performers so the weak can win too. imho it changes things from a primarily female-centric event which happens to cover programming to a people-centric event which forbids the "obviously" superior boys. What better way to make people feel second-class?

> I'm not so naive to think that those were exactly welcoming enviornments for women.

Agreed. But that seems like the problem to solve, by making sure that the events we organize aren't hostile to anyone. But anyone is far wider than women, and the offenders are far more diverse than men.

> I don't really understand what "handicaps" the existence of an all-girl coding camp represents to men or boys.

Not that there is a handicap, but that your son would feel like he's being given one so that he's on equal footing - just because he's male.

> Who is getting really, genuinely hurt by this, in your opinion?

Everyone. Both children, and all of society.

Your daughter would feel less sense of accomplishment, your son would feel that his success is less important to you than hers or that he's already good so why strive. Children of either gender who don't learn in the stereotypical way the group leaders think they should and are thus less-served by the program. Trans kids would suffer from more physical-gender stereotyping and all these gender-specific camps would just prolong gender segregation for everyone.

It's not an either-or question though. I don't think you should ignore traditional sexism, which I agree is huge pretty much everywhere including many classrooms. But I think we should do more-inclusive things, not less, to combat it. Things that help everyone, not that exclude.

There's a real reason to have mentors who look like you, in whatever ways you see yourself, but not I think, to be separated from those who are different.

[kohanz]

On most of your points we are not too far apart, but I really have to take issue with this:

> Like if the event in question was basketball camps and you put your child in "Basketball for Short & Slow People". All the female-only events have a real taint of keeping out the strong performers so the weak can win too.

An all-girl introductory coding camp is like a baksetball camp for "short & slow" players? Girls are weak when it comes to software and boys are strong?

Learning to code is not a competitive sport. I think it's a really ugly comparison, to be honest. It's all-girl to encourage female participation and has absolutely nothing to do with ability. Any presumptions of ability being brought into the discussion is being injected by your own viewpoints.

[hueving]

>Girls are weak when it comes to software and boys are strong?

That's precisely what you are implying by supporting coding camps "for girls"!

Any time you create an event restricted to some group unrelated to skill level, it makes it sound like something inherent to the group makes their abilities different.

Okay:

Python for beginners

Python for intermediate users

Python for data scientists

Not okay:

Python for girls

Python for Jewish people

Python for Black people

Python for Gay people

Python for White people

[kohanz]

>Any time you create an event restricted to some group unrelated to skill level, it makes it sound like something inherent to the group makes their abilities different

Not at all. That is completely you bringing your prejudices into the equation.

Do gyms have womens-only sections because women are not as good as men at going to the gym?! No, it's about comfort and an alternative to a male-dominated environment.

If girls exposed to coding through camps end up enjoying it and going on to CS in school, balancing out the classrooms (which will naturally lead to more balance without the needs for exclusionary events), that's not a bad thing IMHO and there is no harm done. This is just something to try and kickstart momentum away from the status quo of the huge imbalance there is.

[hueving]

>That is completely you bringing your prejudices into the equation

Says the person advocating for special women's-only classes, implying they are not capable of participating in mixed gender environments.

>that's not a bad thing IMHO and there is no harm done.

Except to the kids that were refused from entering the class due to their gender. They were deprived of whatever the teacher and their would-be peers had to offer.