Why would they be ashamed? If you have a family with sufficient means and close enough ties that they're willing to help you and make your life a bit easier and less risky, why wouldn't you embrace that?
Because I think it's shameful not to be financially self-sufficient. it's an important part of adulthood. To me regular financial help from your parents is something a child or teenager receives - it's an allowance.
I'd like to think that if the generation before me had some money knocking about, that I'd have the same attitude. Let them spend their hard earned money on a cruise or a holiday, rather than supporting their grown children who are already well into adulthood themselves.
I get that from a "protestant work ethic" sense, but just because people get help from their families doesn't mean they're incapable of being self-sufficient.
This is a part of the reason that many wealthy families stay wealthy. Whether it's a down payment, help with rent, or the understanding that they'll be a backstop if everything falls apart, it lets the next generation take risks that would be completely imprudent otherwise.
I think a lot of parents of millennials understand how much harder life is for young people today too. With school debt, salaries that have stagnated since the 1990s, and housing prices that won't stop increasing, it's a completely different world than the one they grew up in.
> Let them spend their hard earned money on a cruise or a holiday, rather than supporting their grown children who are already well into adulthood themselves.
To many parents, there is literally no more meaningful way to spend their money than to confer comfort to their children, no matter how old they are.
That's a pretty arrogant position. A small minority of people is afforded opportunities to live comfortably by themselves. There's nothing shameful about accepting help from people who can help you, if you need it.
I agree with you in theory but it's a point of pride to be financially independant for me and my wife. It's nice not to have ANY strings attached to any of the money we make beyond how we decide to allocate our money. That's not necessarily to say that all parents will have strings attached to their aid but maintaining financial independance is something that has substantial value to a lot of people.
I'd like to think that if the generation before me had some money knocking about, that I'd have the same attitude. Let them spend their hard earned money on a cruise or a holiday, rather than supporting their grown children who are already well into adulthood themselves.