[parennoob]

To refine your analogy a bit, it's like a very attractive married person who has explicitly stated "I'm not interested" complaining about a lot of people hitting on them.

It's not something that the person being hit on necessarily wants.

[otakucode]

Being hit on by people who very well might say "oh, actually, you're kind of ugly" if they were to reply with some interest to boot.