[mildbow]

This.

A huge part of the problem is we think we need to be happy/succesfull/whatever and any discomfort/pain is a existential problem.

It's not. It's life. It's got ups and downs. Don't let the downs get you too down[]. Find joy when you can.

[] This doesn't mean you have to just "be happy". But rather, recognize there is a problem and actively try to get help so next time you are more resilient.