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by pw0ncakes 5878 days ago
I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy". It's just a gross and depressing concept.
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Sorry, let me define my terms. By "fuck buddy", I mean a girl whom I am neither monogamous with nor emotionally anchored to. We find each other fun, and love fooling around, but we are not in "a relationship" -- among other things, no public affection, and definitely no "I love you".
Right, I know. I wouldn't date a woman who entered into a non-monogamous sexual relationship.
And some people wouldn't date a woman who isn't Catholic/Jewish/Hindu/whatever. You're within your rights to choose whom you date, but it doesn't really reflect anything about the people you're refusing as much as about yourself. How is your personal unwillingness to date such women interesting or relevant?
And some people wouldn't date a woman who isn't Catholic/Jewish/Hindu/whatever. You're within your rights to choose whom you date, but it doesn't really reflect anything about the people you're refusing as much as about yourself.

I didn't say it does.

Having a one-night-stand is stupid. Does it make someone a whore who should be ostracized? No. Is it a behavior that, in my estimation, a rational person would be ashamed of? Yes. Is it worse than the worst or stupidest thing I've done? Probably not.

> Is it a behavior that, in my estimation, a rational person would be ashamed of? Yes.

please provide a rational derivation of this shame.

Why? What is so gross and depressing about it?
I like to believe that sex is an expression of romantic love and not just a commodity to be exchanged for social status.
You do realize those aren't the only two choices right? Sometimes (even in a monogamous relationship) it's just a fun, pleasurable, aerobic activity.
So you would never date someone that slept with someone else? 'Fuck buddy' doesn't imply that it's a one-way street and that one of them is essentially a 'blow-up doll' for the other one to use just to get off.
Literal: I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy".

Interpretation: So you would never date someone that slept with someone else?

Am I missing a few steps here? I never remotely implied that.

I suspect that the primary source of the confusion here is the word "was". pw0ncakes likely means that he wouldn't date someone who was currently someone else's fuck buddy. pyre is taking it to mean that he wouldn't date someone who had ever been someone else's fuck buddy.

Or I'm way off, in which case, on with your argument :)

The definition of the term 'fuck buddy' probably varies from person to person, so how exactly do you feel you can determine whether someone that you're dating/looking to date was someone else's 'fuck buddy?'