[holyOrIonsBelt]

The title is inferring that in modern society, the more successful are those who are kind instead of those who are ostensibly (like, say, a pro athlete) faster/stronger/more dexterous. In other words, if you socialize better, you're more likely to find a partner. That's essentially the gist. The contrast, if you wanna characterize it as that, is to give credence to the people who do well by helping society thrive instead of browbeating it into submission.

The Big 5 model is incredibly limiting and is only successful _because_ of its brevity, not because it is sufficiently explanatory of the kaleidoscope of human traits. Its reductionism at it's most hubristic, and let's keep it real here, no five personality traits are adequate enough to span the dynamism of human emotive.

I believe in a thing called cosmic consciousness, and that is (albeit somewhat challenging to explain) what drives my defense of why kindness is such a pivotal factor in human social interaction. There is a line in Gladiator "what we do in life echoes in infinity" and because that resonance exists, the kindness we exhibit is important enough to outweigh other traits, and actually points to a larger issue of whether or not our judgmental, rather vindictive mindset of late is ultimately counterproductive to the existential state of civilization. In other words, when we are kind to one another, we facilitate a happier, healthier world, thus insuring the survival of those who promote that non-violent, what I would call, state of Grace.