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by edblarney 3475 days ago
Obviously, this may not be a possible option for you ... and I loathe to say this, but you should probably just leave.

There's no way to deal with the issue without making it 'you vs. her'. Even if they don't like her (and know she's a bitch), maybe she's too important to them at this point ... so you're going to be perceived as 'the problem'.

If she is as bad as you say she is, surely other people will take note of that, you may want to hand in your resignation and inform upper management of the reasons why. And then move on.

I wish you well.

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I would add one thing: if you keep going on like this, you will become her victim. It will affect you.

Right now - you're new - you're kind of outside the game. You're almost an 'observer'.

But once you are trapped in that - you'll either have to assume the position of 'trained animal' - or you'll face serious wrath.

To appease her at the beginning, you might feign meekness - but this will consume your identity. It will start to affect your view of yourself, your skills, your role in life.

It's not fair, but that's power. If you feel that she is definitely valued by the company and can't/won't replace here, then there's not much chance you can win. It's going to be 'political' not 'judicious'. A startup that needs to make milestones is going to chose whoever is more valuable to them at that point and that's it.

I was in this situation once, the best thing I ever did was walk away, I was foolish to hang on for even the several weeks I did.

Anyhow, I don't want to seem so authoritative, obviously, it's a personal choice, but if you truly feel this person is bad and vindictive ... it could very well consume you. Surely you're a smart guy, find a place that works for you.

agreed. think in terms of game theory -- if you can hustle your way out of there, you could be saving yourself a lot of emotional wear/toll.
I was going to say the exact same thing. You're the new guy and she's part of the culture. The possibility of being able to change her or the company surrounding her is almost nil. At this point its better to cut your losses and go.