[presidentender]

What I didn't do in your situation - should have done - was to stick up for myself. Now, "sticking up" can take several forms, and the trick is to do it appropriately.

If you're too gentle, the other party might not understand that you have concerns, might not respect them as important, or might be able to pretend not to know about them.

If you're too emphatic, you risk exceeding the bounds of professionalism yourself.

Do stand up for yourself. Don't bully her.