| I agree with the spirit of your post and I think it's good advice for someone within the range of 'normal' mental health. However I think telling someone who is depressed to 'suck it up, buttercup' is unhelpful and potentially dangerous. I was never properly diagnosed, but I have suffered with what I now think is depression for long periods of my life. Believe me, I told myself to 'suck it up' every single day. And my continued failure to 'suck it up' became another stick to beat myself with, and (in the warped mindset of the depressive) more evidence that I was completely, totally worthless. Please don't ever tell a depressed person to 'just be happy' or 'suck it up' or 'snap out of it'. It doesn't work like that. That's not to say the OP should abdicate all responsibility for his future. He should still do the other things you mention. But he should be kind to himself along the way. One caveat: what's with the weird stigma (most prevalent, it seems, in English-speaking countries) about living with your parents? If you get along with your parents and they live in an area where there are jobs, what's wrong with staying a supportive environment and saving money for a while? |
I didn't take it that stray was saying to suck it up and be happy or get out of the depression but suck it up and take a job that may not be the ideal job for the OP currently. There are a lot of shitty jobs out there and as a junior you are more likely to be stuck with one of those than people with experience. Take a shitty job learn what you can and then move to a better job.