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In Western Europe, you'll especially get the latter. And be glad it doesn't result in an HR complaint. Or at least a permanent distrust of that creepy invasive manager.

But the worse would be a truthful answer. As a manager, I know some of my people well enough to know what kind of painful shit that would dredge up. It's impossible, and even downright undesirable to have a relationship with all your team members in which it is okay to discuss such things.