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by andendau 3501 days ago
Why not novice instead of your girlfriend? You don't even mention her in the articles so why cling to a distracting title?
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Perhaps his girlfriend and him felt it was a group effort, and it had sentimental value to have that in the title.

When my girlfriend and I pursue things intellectually, we feel sentimental about it to some extent.

I can sympathize with OP for choosing the risk of uncharitable readings

It's also largely possible OP did not anticipate the risk of uncharitable readings, and it was not an informed decision

I can understand both an uninformed and informed decision on the part of OP

Edit: clarify, shorten, extend, extend, done ~

He should change it. Regardless of the intention, this is how it will be interpreted.
He 'shouldn't' do anything. Stupid people purposely avoid the most obvious meaning of the title just to show off their morality.
I hate when the political correctness police jump on person for being slightly, unintentionally politically incorrect.

It's obvious the guy that wrote these articles isn't trying to trigger anyone, so can we all just not get triggered?

Well I hope you are not equating the discussion happening in this thread with the 'political correctness police jumping on someone'. The only discussion happening here seems to be about whether it is appropriate or not. No one is suggesting that the author be punished or admonished for it.

It seems like a very valid thing to discuss, and suggesting that people might be 'triggered' for even bringing it up only serves to undermine a legitimate discussion on it.

No one here seems emotionally distraught by the author's words. Rather, all of the discussions about the inappropriateness of the remarks seem to be pitched in a constructive and explanatory way, without regard to whether they were offended by them or not.

No one is suggesting that the author be punished or admonished for it.

The ancestor comments by andendau and dopu are admonishing him for it.

This isn't about "showing off morality." It's about making the tech community welcoming to people of all genders. Your attitude is part of the reason that doing so is so difficult.
What about an article by a woman entitled:

"Elementary school unions explained to my husband"

Would that make you feel like the education community is unwelcoming of all genders?

Doesn't the education community struggle with exactly this problem, perception, and male parental involvement in general?

I know dads feel excluded because a number of educational things specifically mention moms.

Yes, it would; and I as understand it, it is.
Right now it doesn't seem very welcoming to people with non-technical girlfriends that are curious about machine learning.
Agreed. The title is very 'Mansplaining' https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mansplaining
I was hoping that the first part would have an explainer to justify the mention of the GF. Something like, "My girlfriend is not a programmer and has never taken computer science classes. The following drawing are what I used to explain ML to her."
That was implicit. The article is written for by adults, we don't need a disclaimer every time we include the opposite gender in our writings.
It come off across pushing a certain stereotype about women too. I agree drop the girlfriend part