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I have a ton of respect for people who choose not to have children, for whatever reason. Good on them. I think the societal drive to marry and have children is bullshit, especially for women. You can be a fully-realized person without children.

Having said that, it's not a bad choice to have children. This essay covers a lot of ground very quickly, but the part about effort distribution resonated with me and I disagree with it. Yes, career plus family are challenging, but I'm glad I have both.

There's never 100% done with with anything, including parenting and work. I don't know a single person who has fully accomplished everything they want to do, no matter how singly focused they are. I don't know what 100% parenting would look like. Kids aren't sculpture which stop progressing when not being worked. They're people. Yes, as a parent you spend time with them, and thinking of them, but you're not failing when you're thinking of something else.