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Oh man, I could write a book about this. A little over 10 months ago our first was born. A boy. And the first 6 months were like a crazy rollercoaster, personally and in the sense of finding balance in the dynamic between the both of us as new parents. Very intense. "Holy crap. I'm a dad!" One of the most incredible internal processes I experienced was that, out of nowhere, I suddenly just knew stuff, like what to do, how to act, how to help, how to be there. I won't write that book here, hehe - the point I basically want to make is that lots of places talk about the amazing maternal instinct, but without a doubt there is also such a thing as the paternal instinct: you know what the little guy/gal needs, what mother and child both need, and this all comes naturally. I didn't have a clue until all of a sudden I just did. That's how it was to me at least. Like some kind of DNA-code activated all kinds of things that had an impact on my sense of self, my behaviour, my self-confidence got a boost too, and so on and so forth. And it's true what they say: you need to have experienced it before you can really understand it. So, to the grandparent (and parent) posters: godspeed and I wish you all the best. Have fun, and if you're anything like me then know this: patience does pay off ond things do get back to normal. Hard to realise when you're still riding that rollercoaster, but still very true indeed. |