I get anxious about this too sometimes, but in my experience the "long lists of conditions that no one ever told me and assumed I knew" are hardly ever relevant.
Well, that isn't what I was doing. Since you are not among those being actually helpful to me in this discussion, you are more than welcome to stay out of it if you feel that some remark of mine somehow constitutes bad behavior. I have upvoted every single reply that was useful to me and said thanks twice.
What were you doing? If someone volunteers advice, just be appreciative and try it if you want. Don't slag them off if it doesn't work out for you. It's not their fault they don't understand everything about what you need to do to implement their advice.