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by swframe 3527 days ago
We focus on the mating but the real challenge is keeping relationships interesting when we're not mating.
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exactly. that's a life skill no one can ever teach you. very few of us are lucky to have a perfect match - but the rest need to learn the hard way how to make a relationship work - how to resist temptation when your hormones are acting up and that cute new girl is giving you the look.

it's especially difficult in modern times, where so many people are discouraged from settling young and experimenting till you are into your late 20s or early 30s - while ignoring emotional well being and stability that are so important later on.

sex-ed is generally fubared in almost every country on the planet.

> how to resist temptation when your hormones are acting up and that cute new girl is giving you the look.

The best way to resist temptation is to give in to it :D

Yup. We are meant to form pair bonds with extra couplings. This is why I practice responsibile non-monogamy.
We are also "meant" to batter our competitors to death with a club.
Not really. We get PTSD when we do that.
Shooo, shooo! Away,evil spirit! deploys chainsaws and holy water
I beg to differ, NVC has been taught for several decades now.