[rdtek]

Try to develop your spiritual and emotional intelligence. A lot of people in the tech and science industry seem to be so focussed on the hard skills that they neglect soft skills and other important parts of life. Success in software development is only 20% coding and 80% communication (a wise person told me). Your anxiety can be overcome, look for opportunities to build positive relationships with people, volunteer, help someone, read some non-tech literature e.g. novels, creative writing, poetry, scriptures. Personally my Christian faith has helped me understand people and become more emotionally sharp. If you have any Christian friends or family get in touch with them. Believe you can grow and overcome, the lowest moments can be the most significant turning points from which you can move forward. You can do it man.

[RandomOpinion]

Though well intentioned, that's not really the right advice for someone on the autism disorder spectrum. It's kind of like telling a person with muscular dystrophy to try jogging.

[rdtek]

Some people with autism do make significant progress to the point where they can achieve a lot and live a fulfilling life. The muscular dystrophy simile is inaccurate and quite disempowering, like saying "sorry your stuck in a condition so don't try to do anything". Getting a formal diagnosis and professional medical advice is of course a good idea as per the other comment. There are stories and research showing the brain can develop and learn in autistic children and they become more able to deal with the social challenges of life [1]. The OP has already said s/he has made progress with shyness, this is an encouragement to take steps forward in other areas too.

[1] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2271608/Can-really...